How to Find Peace in a Busy Life

In this episode of What's the Universe Say About That?, we explore a challenge almost everyone faces: how to find peace in the middle of a busy, demanding life.

We're often told to slow down, meditate, or practice mindfulness—but what happens when your schedule feels too full to make space for any of that?

We asked the Universe a simple, practical question:
 How do we experience peace when life is pulling us in different directions?

If you've ever felt like peace is something you don't have time for, or you'll get to "someday," or if you're simply tired of feeling like you have to choose between your peace and everything on your to-do list, this episode is for you.

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Transcript

Mike Lannon

Here's a question I think a lot of people struggle with. How do you find peace when you can't find time for peace? There's school and work and chaos around the house with family.

Mary Obana

Oh my goodness, yes. How do you find peace amidst the busyness of life?

Mike Lannon

That's what we wanted to know, so we asked the universe.

Mary Obana

Welcome to this episode of What's the Universe Say About That? I'm Mary Obana, and along with my husband Michael, we ask the universe for answers.

You see, I'm blessed with this beautiful gift where I get quiet and I can connect with the loving guidance of the universe.

Mike Lannon

So today, you'll see and hear Mary connect directly to that divine guidance and hear the words of wisdom flow directly through her in response to questions about life and the challenges we all face at certain times.

Mary Obana

So welcome to our home.

Mike Lannon

And welcome to this now normal but always amazing part of our daily lives. So sit back, get ready, and let's hear what the universe has to say about that. Let's do it.

Hello. Hey, everybody. We've got a question today that I think a lot of people are going to relate to.

You know, you hear all this stuff about self-care and meditation and creating a space for yourself where you can get quiet. That's really difficult in most people's lives.

Mary Obana

It is really difficult. You've got kids. You've got work.

You've got family. You've got grocery shopping. You've got laundry.

You've got all this stuff to do. And you've got like chaos all the time. And we're supposed to find peace.

Mike Lannon

Yeah. And we're supposed to find peace. Namaste.

So the question, it's a very practical question. How do we find peace when we can't find time for peace or find time to do the things that, you know, you read about in a lot of self-help books like meditating and yoga and all those things. This is, I think, a really practical challenge for people that are just juggling, trying to keep the balls in the air.

Mary Obana

Yeah.

Mike Lannon

I think we all can relate.

Mary Obana

Yeah.

Mike Lannon

So we wanted to ask the universe.

Mary Obana

Great question.

Mike Lannon

How do we find peace?

Mary Obana

We need the answer!

Mike Lannon

When we can't find the time for finding peace.

Mary Obana

Yeah.

Mike Lannon

So you ready?

Mary Obana

Yeah, let's do it.

Mike Lannon

All right, let's do it.

Mary Obana

I want to know this one! Ha ha! All right.

The Universe

Ah, we delight in this question. How to find peace when you don't have time to find peace. This is the state of the human experience. Life.

Life is full. Life is full of responsibilities, of relationships. It's a cacophony of activity.

And one often wonders, how is it you can find peace amidst all this chaos? Many believe that peace comes through meditation, self-care, long walks, quiet time, time away from the busyness of your life. Peace is a beautiful thing to experience. For peace gives you a sense of calm. Amidst what might be a great deal of busyness.

But you see, peace does not come from meditation, from long walks, from carving out time. The path to peace comes from within you. Peace is not something that is dependent on external circumstances. When the kids are at school, when the dog is asleep, when the dishes have been put away, when the chores have been done. Peace comes from within you.

Peace is knowing that you are not alone. Peace is trusting that you are being supported. Peace comes from knowing you are deeply loved. That peace comes regardless of the external circumstances. You can find peace amidst the chaos. This doesn't mean that you are engaging in all the busyness with a somehow meditative state as you are cleaning, as you are plowing through your chores. It means you have a state of peace within you.

Meaning that all is well. Even though what might be happening can be chaotic or even not exactly as you want. Peace is something deeper.

It is a knowing. It is the depths beneath all the commotion. It is said that in the oceans there can be great chaos on the surface. Noise, waves, wind. But deep down in that ocean, regardless of what is happening on the surface, it is always quiet.

It is always calm. This doesn't mean that there isn't chaos on the surface. It doesn't mean that there isn't wind.

There aren't waves. Both can be true at the same time, you see. Peace is a sense of knowing that you are not alone.

Trusting that you are being supported and knowing that you are deeply loved. This is peace, you see. Does this make sense?

Mike Lannon

Yeah, very much so. Maybe the question was not seeking peace but seeking calm. Is there a difference between calm and peace?

The Universe

Peace is a state of being. The calm that you speak of, it seems, is more related to the situation you are in. The surface. So, the question is, when you have this chaos on the surface of life, how do you maintain calm amidst the chaos? You are living your life. You are engaged in life.

This is what makes the life experience so rich. You are living life. This does not mean that you amidst the chaos when the food is burning, you are simply calm.

No, you are engaged in that experience, giving it the attention that is required in that moment. This is living, but both can be true at the same time. You can have this craziness, this cacophony of activity on the surface but have a sense of peace within you.

Reminding yourself that the peace is within you enables you to engage with the chaos without getting too whipped up in the chaos. This doesn't mean you don't give what is happening your full attention. It means simply that you don't allow what is happening on the surface to define your way of being.

It is what the circumstance calls for in the moment. This is life. But while this is happening, you can also have a sense of peace. Does this help you understand the difference?

Mike Lannon

Very, very much so. Both can be true. As a question of almost contrast, if people don't have that peace inside that you pointed out comes from knowing that we're not alone and knowing we're loved and supported, if they don't feel that inside, what does that do to the surface?

The Universe

Then the one who has experienced the chaos feels their life is chaos. They are allowing the circumstance of the moment to define their state of being, who they are, how they feel, you see. So if one day everything is calm, then they come to believe that all is well.

When things are chaotic, they believe all isn't well. When all is well. You're just engaged in the circumstances of the day, of the moment. When you identify your life, when you define your life, only with that which is in the moment, there can be this whipsawing effect where your well-being is inextricably tied to the circumstance that comes.

This is a difficult way to live your life. It is as if you are not grounded, anchored, and you are whipping around, feeling a lack of control for the circumstance of the moment is taking you wherever it takes you. When you have peace, there is an anchoring, a grounding that allows you to experience and engage in the circumstances of the moment while being anchored in a truth of peace.

Mike Lannon

And when it's, you know, maybe it's a time of meditation or of taking a beautiful walk in the woods, that's when the surface and the deep are aligned and when it's chaos on the surface, it can feel misaligned if you identify kind of yourself as that boat floating, bobbing on the surface. So meditation and long walks just are, I don't know, an alignment to that peace. And the times when things are going chaotic, if you stay anchored to that peace inside, always still feels well, even though you're engaged in 

the chaos.

The Universe

Yes. And the long walks, the quiet moments, the meditation, it is a tapping into that peace, fueling you with the peace, connecting you to the peace, reminding you of the peace. It's as if you are getting fueled up with the peace.

So these are important practices. And for each one, the practice is different. Everyone doesn't need to meditate to feel this way.

For one, it can be a walk in their favorite spot. It can be a drive in a beautiful place. It could be a shower.

For each one, it's different. It's that place. It's that moment.

It's that time where they can be with themselves, you see. We understand that many feel that they can't meditate. They're not good at meditation.

Meditation is a practice of being at one with yourself. Meditation can happen in many forms. It does not need to be in the lotus position on a pillow.

It can be found in many ways. The key is for each to know what that way is for them, so they can return to it in a way that comes easily, that is joyful, that comes naturally, that fills them. It is enough to be in a car by yourself if that moment gives you peace, you see, allows you to connect to that quietness.

It is okay. People are so hard on themselves, feel there is a standard they must live up to. Every one is unique and beautifully different.

Finding what works for them is all that matters. It is always enough.

Mike Lannon

That's great. Thank you so much.

The Universe

We appreciate the question. And it is our hope that this has been helpful.

Mike Lannon

Very much.

Once again. That's so simple. Why didn't I think of that? You know, I had this image in my head of, what's really beautiful about that is that the peace is within.

And I'm sure you know people, I've experienced, or witnessed other people where amidst the chaos, and especially like with kids, you know, kids, it can be crazy, little kids running around and screaming. And one person can get like frustrated, resentful, what all these kind of negative things, it just kind of just gets sucked into the chaos. And then there's this other mother or person who just, you can see that they're like, this is life.

And they, they love, they have the peace and they love the experience of, you know, what looks like chaos, but it's just, it's a rich experience for them. And, uh, that kind of made sense. Cause I can see it's easy to get swept up into kind of what's happening.

You're that ship on the surface and it's easy to get swept up in the waves and the wind. But, uh, there are, there are people that have the ability to have that anchor down deep, that the waves will pass, the wind will come and life will, you know, there'll be times of calm and there'll be times of, of storm.

Mary Obana

Yeah.

Mike Lannon

So.

Mary Obana

And we all have our challenges of when we're challenged to maintain peace in circumstances that are really challenging.

Mike Lannon

Yeah.

Mary Obana

There's some times like, oh, you're testing me now!

Mike Lannon

No, it's true.

Mary Obana

So, uh, you know.

Mike Lannon

I love that where it's, peace is a state of being not based on circumstances.

Mary Obana

Yeah.

Mike Lannon

That was, that's, that's really helps frame it for me. And the reason I asked that question about, it was a terrible question about, you know, where long walks and yoga and meditation fit in. Um, the reason I asked that is because I wanted to kind of understand where that fits in.

And what they said was those, whatever it is, whatever works for you that enables you to kind of connect to the peace within that's, that's the purpose of that.

Mary Obana

Yeah.

Mike Lannon

It's not, I need that circumstance and that's, what's creating it.

Mary Obana

Yeah.

Mike Lannon

It's, it's, it's an opportunity for me to connect what's already inside me. It's there.

Mary Obana

Yeah.

Mike Lannon

You know, hopefully it's there.

Mary Obana

Yeah.

Mike Lannon

If, if I was, if I was going to, you know, advise or tell someone what they need to do to find peace is it's that, that checklist of you're not alone, you're loved and you're supported.

Mary Obana

Yeah.

Mike Lannon

And, um, that's the most important thing. And that, that for a lot of people it's work.

Mary Obana

Even the words just feel like, like you have to get there.

Mike Lannon

You have to get there though. So for a lot of people.

The Universe

Yeah.

Mike Lannon

That's the...

Mary Obana

Those words are so comforting.

Mike Lannon

Yeah.

Mary Obana

You know?

Mike Lannon

Yeah.

So, well, hopefully this episode was comforting.

Mary Obana

Yeah.

Mike Lannon

So thank you so much for joining us. Hopefully it's been helpful for you. It certainly always is for us.

Mary Obana

Yeah.

Mike Lannon

Any last words, Mary?

Mary Obana

No.

Mike Lannon

One. No.

Mary Obana

Thanks for joining us.

Mike Lannon

All right. We'll see you again soon.

Mary Obana

Until next time. Take it easy.

Mike Lannon

Bye-bye.